Question by I’m the one: How can I tell a Chinese student of mine off without her losing her face?
I have a female Chinese student of mine, another one, that keeps on sticking her breasts out at me, very time she talks to me. I find this raither rude, especially as she a student of mine. I heard that telling someone off in Chinese culture makes them lose face. How can I tell her off for her actions while she keeps her face.
Best answer:
Answer by Alice C
if you tell her off in front of her friends or in front of every she will lose face
just tell her when there is no one around to hear you tell her off
Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!
I am not sure if this is the “sticking out her breasts” to “seduce” scenario seen in much of the western world. I have encountered Chinese people who would like to talk to you in very close proximity from both male and females and understand that from other expats that it is due to their culture. Perhaps this is exacerbate by us not speaking as loudly as the Chinese.
And so perhaps you can speak to her privately about the western comfort zone not being the same as that in China (no need to mention breast).
Ask her if she wishes to step any closer to you. If she does, then whisper in her ear that has nice looking tatas, kiss her on the cheek, and cop a feel. Turn to the rest of the class and say, “Anyone else want an ‘A’ this semester?”
This girl sounds like a real weirdo to me. Stay well clear of her as she could have a severe personality disorder.
Does she also have skewed,ill informed and false beliefs about her “Motherland” that have no basis in truth? Is she also a fantasist? Does she tell lies about her “beloved” China? Does she constantly criticise her adopted country but refuse to go back to her homeland? Are her conversations peppered with sexual inuendos?
If so perhaps you should seek the advice of a psychiatrist or other mental health experts and talk to your superiors about her then to try to get her some help with her mental problems.
Disturbed people like this can be extremely dangerous. Nobody wants another campus shooting by a mentaly disturbed student. Stay away from her and be VERY careful !
send an email or sms to her
Not YOU again, boring TROLL. ha ha ha
come on, u know u want it.
and i do need to boost my GPA. it’s only 3.62 now.
come on prof!
i know you like breasts, i see u eating turkey breast sandwich and chicken breast sandwich all the time!
You should be careful, students in China these days are also doing the same thing to seduce their professors and bribe them with sex in exchange for good grades such as this one from a very reliable news source in China : http://www.chinahush.com/2009/08/19/female-graduate-student-bribed-70-year-old-professor-with-sex-for-phd-admission/
You should report this to the school’s administrative staff. This kind of action is humiliating. She makes China lose face. Confusing human breasts with sandwiches might mean a more serious sign of damaged brain cells lol.
Why not try living in reality rather than in your tiresome fantasy world? Also see a doctor – modern medicine can do wonders for sad, lonely, miserable people.